Not Sure We’re Talking About the Same Thing
Whenever I see someone talking about the “secret” to marriage, I look at what they’re saying and end up scratching my head. Because they always seem to be describing a totally different sort of relationship than mine, and I can’t help but think that it has two probable causes: my spouse is a long-time friend (and obviously now best friend), and we are feminists. Those two things seem to be a base difference to everything I see people complain about or discuss overcoming when they describe their marriages and what makes them stable.
It goes a long way to making things peaceful, happy and rewarding when you genuinely enjoy spending time with your spouse doing whatever and you don’t allow stupid gender binary shit to get in the way.
Is our marriage really so different, or do other people with marriages like ours not talk about it much?